So from this man/bear discourse, certainly men do need to learn about the threat model women live with. to take in that knowledge productively, we need a level of emotional maturity that we definitely don't all have.

To do one's best, but to be called dangerous scum anyway, to realize that will never change, and to neither react in defense of one's ego, nor to spiral into total self-flagellation and permanent social anxiety, but instead to simply take one's lumps, to take personal inventory, and soberly remind oneself of the necessity of individual responsibility, and of its limits. that's a hell of a needle to thread.